Bisexuality

[lykomancer]

A long time ago, Ed said to me, "Stop saying that you're bi. You're not: you're straight. You just say that you're bi because it's trendy. Stop trying to be something you're not just to feel good about being open-minded. You need to accept that you're straight. And it's okay to be straight, Jess."

The other night, Randy said that I couldn't call myself bisexual if I hadn't had sex with a woman.* Flabbergasted, I asked if this meant that he hadn't been straight when he was a virgin. This went into a (mercifully) brief conversation in which he staunchly held that definitional sexuality hinges on sexual experience...which just floored me. I've never heard anyone say that.



...do other bisexual women have this problem of being told that they cannot define their own sexuality? What's the experience you all have had with this?



*I have had sex with a woman, thank you.

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[yuuo.livejournal.com]

They're threatened by the fact that not only do they have to watch out for guys as competition, but the ladies, too. It's also not impossible that while you're bi, you may lean more one way or another, but still are in the middle, and that's throwing them off- I'm probably about a 4 on the Kinsey scale, which shows, as I vastly prefer women, but that doesn't mean I'm gay, it means I'm bisexual.

Nobody seems to get that. (Remember, we bisexuals are fuzzy pink unicorns. We apparently don't exist.)