Bisexuality

[lykomancer]

A long time ago, Ed said to me, "Stop saying that you're bi. You're not: you're straight. You just say that you're bi because it's trendy. Stop trying to be something you're not just to feel good about being open-minded. You need to accept that you're straight. And it's okay to be straight, Jess."

The other night, Randy said that I couldn't call myself bisexual if I hadn't had sex with a woman.* Flabbergasted, I asked if this meant that he hadn't been straight when he was a virgin. This went into a (mercifully) brief conversation in which he staunchly held that definitional sexuality hinges on sexual experience...which just floored me. I've never heard anyone say that.



...do other bisexual women have this problem of being told that they cannot define their own sexuality? What's the experience you all have had with this?



*I have had sex with a woman, thank you.

Comments

[hiza-chan.livejournal.com]

I consider myself bisexual and have been dating the same girl for over four years. Several people have told me that I'm gay because I haven't had sex with a man yet. I like guys, I just like my girlfriend more. So it's kind of a reverse on your situation.