QUESTION

[lykomancer]

Her older brother Matt's coming tomorrow and probably staying until she's out, which will be-- at least as she's told me-- Thursday afternoon.

Is is wrong of me to pack a few changes of clothes and evacuate the house for a few days? Is it bad of me to, well, run away, when I know that her brother will try to yell at/talk to me?

Comments

[chauni.livejournal.com]

No, not at all. You need to protect yourself and your own stress levels. My only fears is that they would retaliate against yourself, Jinya, your belongings and your pets.

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

She won't. I know she won't. That's not an issue.

I just want to avoid speaking to yet another proxy: Wendy will never confront me unless I confront her (during which she is generally calm and rational unless I start losing it); she speaks through everyone else. So far, her mom has called us; her psychotic drunkard ex-boyfriend has called me and called my manager; we got some of her side through the cop we talked to, and through the thrift store manager. She won't talk to us...but she'll talk to everyone else and their dog about the situation and then they talk to us.

I don't want to deal with her brother. I don't. I just want her out at this point.


IF-- and that's an IF-- he got loud and threatening, then we could call 911 and have him thrown out. However, I'm just more worried about an impromptu interrogation from him the minute I get home from work.

[chauni.livejournal.com]

Just don't be there. Save yourself the stress, honey.

[maxxim-huzzah.livejournal.com]

If it's possible to leave the place for a few hours/days, then it should be ok. Speaking from experience, my friends had decided to bail me out of my apartment while they tackled the mess--but with the rule that I would NOT be there while they did it. They wouldn't have been able to concentrate on the task knowing the source of their trial was standing only a few feet away. I would have dithered and been apologetic and basically unable to feel guilty (and thus, not get anything done).

Perhaps you could greet him when he comes over for propriety's sake (if it bothers you). But you don't have to if you don't want to. Besides, it'll be him and his sister tackling her shit. He needs to see what kind of wreck she's made there. Nothing like proof, right?

(I hope your new roommate is all right too.)

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

My new roommate is a quiet, nonchalant emo 19-year-old Native American girl, also named Jessica, nicknamed "Pepper" because her favorite drink is Dr. Pepper. (We know too many Jessicas. We needed something else.)

We verbed her name. Every time a situation goes bad, Pepper's got a horror story from a time in her life when things went infinitely, terribly worse.
For example, we are keeping her up to date on this situation, right? And we're crying and raving and freaking out.
Pepper's response was, "I once had to talk my sister down when she was holding a knife to her wrists, rocking in the corner, as they hauled our mother off to the psych ward."
"..." we said, mutely horrified. We'd been Peppered.

[maxxim-huzzah.livejournal.com]

O.O! (I have been drive-byed Peppered?)

At least you know you really don't have to worry about her.

I would hope that Wendy's older brother is going to be more understanding toward you and Jinya. I'd also expect that he'd probably take Wendy's side. I'd vote for making yourself scarce if you haven't done so already. And once it's over...it's OVER. *hopeful*

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

HAHAHAHAHA!

Yeah, don't have to worry about her. She's pragmatic and quiet and mostly possessed of common sense. There will be some issues. That's a given. But hopefully it will be better than this.

*nods* I would like to believe that Matt will be, well, un-nosey and unpreachy and no-nonsense...but I somehow doubt it. I've just been verbally kicked around by too many people lately to want to even try to deal with it.

[maxxim-huzzah.livejournal.com]

Ack, just read the entry before this one. Um...would it be rude of me to agree with that entry?

Yeah, it sounds like you need a honest to God break in this situation. Once he arrives, go go go! It'd give you breathing room, if nothing else.

♥

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

I open at work, so I'll be gone from 5 am until I get off at 3:30. I don't know when he's arriving, and Wendy did say that-- hahah, like ALL tourists!-- he wants to go to Mall of America. She says that the moving guys will be coming on on Thursday-- again, I open, and again, I don't know when they are coming.

So I figure that I will go to work tomorrow (Wednesday), stay the night at Randy's, go to work again, and possibly stay the night with him again into Friday. By Friday when I get off of work, I am positive she'll be gone.

[maxxim-huzzah.livejournal.com]

>.< I pray/hope Matt is not as vague as his sister. Heck, maybe he'd kick her ass into gear? (*pops that balloon before it gets off ground*)

As long as you know she's not going to mess with your stuff while you're away. I'd check in at least once during the day while he's there, but only if both sides keep their cool. Otherwise, no show = OK!

[maxxim-huzzah.livejournal.com]

*lol, that should read "unable to STOP feeling guilty".

[bard-linn.livejournal.com]

As long as she can't get into anything that she could a) claim as hers in her insane logic (see conditioner) and b) run off with that you would miss, I'd say GO for it!

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

I actually don't care anymore. I've basically told her to just take everything she fucking wants-- just don't kill any of the pets or damage Jinya's car/my computer...which she was even startled that I'd suggest. She won't do that, and I don't care about the rest.

[keio.livejournal.com]

It's your turf, so I say you hold it. Have maybe Jinya with you just for the stand-down. Be nice also, but firm and cold when the shit starts flying, because then they'll realise what an ass they have been, actually, for having imposed themselves on you.

One last crazy heave before this is all through.

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

The problem is, that Wendy herself-- despite repeated conversations and arguments-- does not realize/acknowledge that she's being/been an ass nor that she has imposed upon not just me, not just Jinya, but dozens of others, like the landlady and Jinya's mother.

[keio.livejournal.com]

I'm hoping that that's just Wendy––and that her older brother, hearing your side out, or at least being there to see first-hand just how messed up things have become, has sense enough to see it from your side as well. Taking this a step further and hoping he'll get through to Wendy–not necessarily side with you in that regard–that at this point, she really has to untangle herself from you guys.

= . =;;

[cephiedvariable.livejournal.com]

God no.

But I'm a coward, so my advice may not be the most noble.

You said yourself you're sick of it. I don't think you're obligated to deal with it any more.

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

I'm not a coward, but so far I've had to explain myself to so many people who aren't actually involved that I just want to vomit every time someone else starts a conversation with, "So you're Wendy's friends, huh?".

(I even told her. I said something like, "I have tried to keep this 'all in the family', so to speak. I try to talk to you directly whenever possible. It's not my fault you clam up, but I want to talk to you; I'm sick of hearing what you want or think from everyone else.")

But whenever a conversation starts like that, I know that I need to explain everything because I am the BAD GUY.

[ozen.livejournal.com]

RUN AWAY.

Be sure to bring/lock down/hide your stuff she might try to take.

[bakkhos.livejournal.com]

You can stay with me if worse comes to worse, or even if you just feel like it. God, why does her brother have to come over??