And now a question of etiquette...

[lykomancer]

Now, it seems to me that if you want to go out and do something, and you simultaneously don't want to go alone AND know that the person you want to invite doesn't have the capitol to go and play, doesn't that seem to suggest that you HAVE to pay your companion's way?

I mean, if you KNOW they can't afford it but want them to come along with you because the event isn't fun/worth going to alone...well, that seems like it implies that you'd be willing to pay for their entry into said event, right?

Is my etiquette on this incorrect?

Comments

[a-white-rain.livejournal.com]

Er I agree.

But I'm a social nitwit with a guilt complex and can be milked off easily so I don't know.

[lykomancer.livejournal.com]

Well, I ask because my dippy pseudo-boyfriend just asked me to go to a concert with him. It's not accessible by bus, so he has to pick me up, and I have NO cash, which means he has to pay my way in.

He was all like, "Oh, man, you so totally owe me," but I seriously disagree. I'd be just as happy to go for a free walk in the park or around a lake; the venue was his choice and he KNOWS I don't have a car or any money. In inviting me, I feel he automatically offered to pay for my expenses for the evening (just as I, in agreeing, will attempt to be good company, grateful, and low maintenance).

[a-white-rain.livejournal.com]

Er talk to him about this? Because while I agree with you, maybe there was some miscommunication?

[velvet-mace.livejournal.com]

Well, put it this way -- they won't go unless you pay for it, so there's not much point in inviting them unless you have a way to get them there. I pay, and figure someday they'll probably spot me back if I'm ever in a pinch. It generally works out.

Is someone pressuring you to go to some event you can't afford?

[velvet-mace.livejournal.com]

ooooh... so what does he say when you say "I don't want to be in your debt so I guess count me out."

[dracschick.livejournal.com]

yep, you're right.

[forgottenlover.livejournal.com]

If you are the one asking, you ought to have the funds to pay their way. Flat out. Because you want them to go ::headshake, and peers up thread::

You don't owe him a thing, so talk it out, seriously.

If you already did all that then uh ::coughs:: go you. ::behind on posts::