Bisexuality
Oct. 28th, 2008 04:50 pmA long time ago, Ed said to me, "Stop saying that you're bi. You're not: you're straight. You just say that you're bi because it's trendy. Stop trying to be something you're not just to feel good about being open-minded. You need to accept that you're straight. And it's okay to be straight, Jess."
The other night, Randy said that I couldn't call myself bisexual if I hadn't had sex with a woman.* Flabbergasted, I asked if this meant that he hadn't been straight when he was a virgin. This went into a (mercifully) brief conversation in which he staunchly held that definitional sexuality hinges on sexual experience...which just floored me. I've never heard anyone say that.
...do other bisexual women have this problem of being told that they cannot define their own sexuality? What's the experience you all have had with this?
*I have had sex with a woman, thank you.
The other night, Randy said that I couldn't call myself bisexual if I hadn't had sex with a woman.* Flabbergasted, I asked if this meant that he hadn't been straight when he was a virgin. This went into a (mercifully) brief conversation in which he staunchly held that definitional sexuality hinges on sexual experience...which just floored me. I've never heard anyone say that.
...do other bisexual women have this problem of being told that they cannot define their own sexuality? What's the experience you all have had with this?
*I have had sex with a woman, thank you.
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